Wednesday, 23 September 2015

A traits of highly sensitive person





Personality traits is not something to be brushed away. It has much to do with the way we perceive life and accept our flaws.
Being highly sensitive can sometimes mean feeling confused, guilty for feeling too intently, too intimately, superpower, shy, etc
According Elaine Aron in his book he gave a ground breaking confirmation that Highly Sensitive People has “increased sensitivity to stimulus” and as being more aware of subtleties and processing information in a deeper and reflective manner. They analyse deeply and never act on impulse!
  • Slow at making decisions: they almost never make up their mind to do anything, they filter every plans with extra survey and make sure every aspect and details of their decision is accurate, which often take a longer time before they finally make up their mind.
  • Notice every details: they are particular about details, and pick up things that others may not notice, they scan their environment and people keenly. They know when you are lying or telling truth.
  • Criticism is not for them. It is difficult for them to accept criticism in a healthy manner.
  • Patient listeners: they will always give you a good advice, because they are good listeners and would only ask questions pertaining to every aspect of the situation.
  • Very emotional: they are a big reactor and not the master of their emotions, they will cry at the sight of someone else crying.
  • Excellent team player: due to their ability to pick up on how people are feeling, they are able to respond to the team’s needs to help them work in the most optimal way.

My husband impregnates my best friend





"Dear ipostcity,
My name is Blessing Okeke and I have a serious issue that is threatening to tear my marriage apart and I need advice fast before I do something silly.
I have been married for four years now, though I am still praying for a fruit of the womb. I thought I had a happy marriage till I realised that I have been living in a fool's paradise. The issue now is that my best friend is currently pregnant for my husband.
I have been friends with Anita from childhood and we were so close that people thought we were actually sisters. We went to the same secondary school and were only separated during our university days but we kept in touch regularly.
After graduation, I moved to Lagos from our Enugu base and few years later, I got married. All her life, Anita found it difficult to keep a steady relationship, something that gave her family and close friends cause for concern. Within eight years, she had married two times and broke up with the husbands; it was that bad.
Last year, she got a job offer in Lagos and naturally, she had to stay with us before she could get a place to stay. I was so happy to have her live with us as we continued our closeness and I was even happier when she and my husband hit it off right from the first; little did I know there was something else brewing.
Their closeness grew and at a time, I became suspicious and told my husband I was no longer comfortable with it but he swore he was only being nice to her. But just six months ago, I noticed Anita was becoming fatter, lazy and throwing up all the time.
She assured me she was just suffering from malaria and would soon be okay. But the cast were removed from my eyes when my husband confessed that Anita was actually pregnant for him and he intended for her to have the baby. He said since I am yet to bear a child for him and his family are in support of Anita keeping the baby.
At the moment, I am at a cross road and I do not know what to do. Is it wrong to help a friend? Why should my husband and best friend treat me this way?
Blessing,
Lagos."
Dear Readers, what would you do if your best friend is pregnant for your husband?

How My husband's parents Advice him to get another wife



Dear ipostcity,
Am Blessing. I have been married for 15 years but I have not been blessed with the fruit of the womb and now, my husband's parents want him to get another wife so that he can give them grand children.
I have prayed, fasted, visited almost every fertility hospital in Nigeria, visited spiritualists, even native doctors, all in a bid to get my own child but all my efforts have been in vain.
All the tests we have undertaken shows there is nothing wrong with my husband and I but as much as we have tried, we always meet with failure.
Now, my husband's parents, especially his mother, have turned against me and have been urging my husband to get another wife who is not barren like me. She even told me to my face that I have bewitched her son and that I must have killed all my children through abortion but God knows all through my single life, I never aborted a baby.
My husband too seems to be succumbing to the wishes of his parents and have hinted that he would have to listen to them and I must accept his decision or I pack out of his house.
I want your readers to advice me on what to do.
Blessing,
Lagos."
Dear readers, you have heard from the troubled lady. On Morning Teaser today, we ask: what would you do if your wife cannot give you a child after 15 years of marriage?
As a woman, what do you think Blessing should do?
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man arrested by the police as a fake soldier


One Ayodele Adedeji of Jackross, Iyana Iyesi, Ota, Ogun State, has been nabbed by the state Police Command for allegedlyparading himself as a soldier in the Nigerian Army.
Adedeji who is said to be using his assumed military authority to extort money from unsuspecting members of the public, was arrested by operatives attached to Onipanun Division of the state command after he had been monitored for sometime by members of the public who called the attention of an Army sergeant residing in the area, to his activities.
The sergeant was reported to have accosted the suspect to ascertain if Adedeji was a genuine military man and after interrogating Adedeji, the sergeant was not satisfied with his explanation, and handed him over to the police.
During interrogation by the police, the culprit confessed to being a fake soldier who had been impersonating for long.
He told police detectives that his elder brother who was in the Army he died some years back and he decided to use his uniforms, identity cards and other accouterments to pass as an officer.
The police recovered the following items from Adedeji:
Two pairs of complete Nigerian Army uniforms, fake NA ID card, jungle boots, dummy gun, and other paraphernalia of the Nigerian Army.
The state Commissioner of Police, Abdulmajid Ali, has therefore directed the Deputy Commissioner of Police in charge of Investigation and Intelligence in to thoroughly investigate the matter to know if the suspect was involved in kidnapping, land speculation and armed robbery for proper prosecution.

Monday, 21 September 2015

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Saturday, 19 September 2015

Suspects of the Aluu a community in Rivers state 4 killing

It is now three years since the four boys from the University of Port Harcourt were lynched in Aluu, a community in Rivers state known for violence.
The torture was highly heartrending and barbaric. From being beaten up with batten to being burned alive with petrol and tyre, the boys were given slow and painful death sentence.

Aluu 4 suspec
If they had envisaged the death trap, Lloyd, Chidiaka and Tekena wouldn’t have joined Ugo to help him retrieve his cash from a debtor. The four handsome promising dudes were in cold-blood murdered in broad-day-light.

Why the four shouldn’t have been killed

This is a country where people die by jungle justice and the killers do not get questioned in the long run.
Then one would imagine how these killers sleep with their eyes closed comfortably inside their houses with the thought of who to kill next. One would also imagine the kind of children they would unleash into the world; their offspring may not be different from their trait.
The problem is not whether the four were guilty of the accusation or not, it is whether whatever they allegedly stole was worth the bright future of the four. The two guys who clearly killed Cynthia Osokogu having lured her through Facebook were not beaten, not to talk of being killed.
For Cynthia’s case, the court processes have been on. On July 22 this year, Justice Olabisi Akinlade of a Lagos high court sitting at Igbosere at a point became furious and had lambasted the counsel to one of the accused killers of Cynthia for his delay tactics. Then the judge threatened to revoke the bail granted the defendant, Nonso Ezik.
But does the Rivers state government or the presiding judge care about the delay in the Aluu 4 case? A popular parlance says, justice delayed is justice denied.
Come to think of it, if really those boys stole anything, the best would have been to hand them over to the law. The most painful part is that a sister to one of them was there when her brother was tortured and finally burned alive.
There were all manner of allegations, some said they were thieves, others said they were cultists and all what not. They died not knowing that they were going to die; they died, not saying goodbye, they all died with talents and dreams. Who will talk for them? Even though anyone gets to talk for them, they are dead and gone.

The negligence of the Nigerian police force

It’s a shame that this happened for hours in broad-day-light without the police showing up. It was reported that there was a police officer at the incident but was unwilling to stop the act. Is a community bigger than the law? It is better to risk saving a guilty person than to condemn an innocent one.
The Nigerian police can never be known for saving a fly, instead they would be the ones to kill or engineer the killings of others. Just on Wednesday, September 16, a police corporal attached to the Isheri-Oshun division in Lagos fired a shot at a moving tricycle along Isheri road killing the wife of the operator. What happened thereafter? Such case would automatically die simply because it involves a man in uniform.
It is this nonchalance for human life that made the police ignore the mob action that led to the abrupt death of the four young undergraduates.
Charles de Montesquieu, a French lawyer and political philosopher once said that there is no crueler tyranny than that which is perpetuated under the shield of law and in the name of justice. Under the very eye of a Nigerian police officer, jungle justice was pronounced.

The comatose justice system

Since the incident, many people have advocated the prompt trial of those behind the heinous act. While some have continued to advocate for death sentence, others urge life imprisonment with hard labour. But the justice system is lackadaisical on matters like this.
It had once been predicted that the matter would end becoming a forgotten one as the government of Nigeria would not do anything about it. Truly, three years down the lane, no resolution.
In 2014, the executive director of the Society for the Promotion of Better Nigeria, Livingston Wechie, said that it is a disturbing fact that the Aluu 4 incident is still generating losses to the affected families and the society in general particularly since justice is still not in sight.
He said that there is nothing that can best describe it as ritual killing without any justification.
One of the suspects, Ikechukwu Louis Amadi, had last year admitted in court that he was involved in the incident but only used a stick to hit the deceased.
Other suspect are Lawal Segun, Abang Cyril, ex-Sergeant  Lucky Orji, David Chinasa Ogbada, Abiodu Yusuf, Joshua Ekpe and John Ayuwa,
Recently on a Thursday, June 11 this year, the hearing of the case was stalled owing to the fact that the accused persons were not present in the court despite their counsels being present at the resumed hearing from its one year closure.
One question for everyone is whether there can ever be justice for the Aluu 4 when the courts are perpetually shut in Rivers state.

Imbibing the spirit of empathy

It can now be understood, as Benjamin Franklin would say, that justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are. One may not know how hard it has been for the families to cope after losing their first sons until such nefarious act comes knocking at one’s door. Imagine it was you, your brother or cousin or friend, what would you have done?
In this country, your safety is in your own hands. The uniformed men who are supposed to be the ones protecting lives and properties of the citizenry are the ones who perpetrate told and untold crimes against innocent people on daily basis.
Maturity and the spirit of peace had led to the reason why there was no communal hostility which may have culminated from the gruesomeness of the cruelty.
The fact remains that when all these particles of injustices are not flushed out, the younger generation is watching… They may take it up someday if nothing is done about it.
Two of the lynched four were upcoming rappers and had released a song with the caption: “Ain’t no love in the heart of the city”. Truly, there was no love in the heart of the community where they were burned alive.
The truth is, there may be times when we are 

Sad Pics of Malnourished Children, Mothers Rescued from Boko Haram

About 139 captives of the Boko Haram sect have regained freedom in the north-east while eight members of the group surrendered to the military on Saturday


Sani Usman, spokesman of the Nigerian army, confirmed this in a statement, saying the fight against insurgency is “gaining momentum”. The statement reads:

“As the military is pushing for the final defeat of Boko Haram terrorists, the fight against the terrorists in the north east is gaining successful momentum with most of the camps falling to the Federal might. 
The advancing troops have captured the villages of Jerre and Dipchari and have destroyed the terrorists camps located in those areas. 
The troops in the Bama axis have rescued yet another 62 people fleeing from Bitti and Pulka. The troops are also combing all known enclaves of the terrorists within Bama, Banki and Pulka general area. In addition, due to the offensive action of the military, another fleeing 22 women 15 men and 40 children arrived Bama today.


The rescued persons looking haggard, dejected and obviously malnourished are being catered for by the troops pending the intervention of the National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA). 
Meanwhile the persons have been cooperating with the military as they have been giving useful information that is assisting our troops in their offensive operations


In a related development, 8 suspected Boko Haram terrorists have today surrendered themselves to troops of 21 Brigade Nigerian Army. The suspected terrorists are being investigated and screened for more information. 
Another fleeing person, Bulama Bukar whose right hand was amputated by the terrorists in Sambisa about a year ago based on allegation of stealing a bag of beans was intercepted by our troops at Jebra bridge today with his family.  
Meanwhile the military Engineers are making tremendous progress in the repairs of the bridge linking Maiduguri and Gamboru Ngala that was blown by Boko Haram terrorists. The bridge repairs would soon be completed.  

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Indomix- quit from singing because of his shyness

Iloyi Adebayo popularly known as Indomix tells Saturday Beats about his career as a music producer

Why did you quit music and delved into sound engineering?

I quit music because I hate facing the crowd. As a musician, you must face the crowd whether you like it or not. I was too shy to face the crowd.

Was that the only reason or the music industry was not favorable to you?

Sincerely, it was favourable but I was not very serious with the music career. While I was doing music, I discovered I could also do music production. I decided to develop myself in music production since I was too shy to become a musician. After I perfected my skills in the craft, I noticed that everybody in the industry wanted to have something to do with me as a sound engineer. I began to understand that people appreciated me more being a sound engineer than a musician.

Which of your works would you say made you popular?

People started to reckon with my trademark when I did the song titled Ole for Sound Sultan, even though I have worked as a sound engineer for other artistes. Another major one I did that had my trademark on it was also for Sultan featuring W4 and 2Face Idibia.

How did you come with the name Indomix?

The funny thing is that when people hear my name, they think I chose it because I love taking Indomie noodles. Actually, my friends called me Indomie because they felt that I am as skinny as the Indomie pasta. As time went on, the name stuck and I began to get used to it. Luckily for me when I met Faze, the first thing he told me was that since I mix songs, I should add the word ‘mix’ to my Indomie stage name and that was how I came about the name Indomix.

How lucrative is your profession?

As you can see, I am living fine and doing quite well as an average Nigerian who believes the Almighty can still do more favourable blessings. I will say my business has been moving so well because here in my studio, my equipment are worth millions of naira and all we can only pray for is for the enlargement of our coast.

What makes you different from other sound engineers in the industry?

Everything I do is unique because I have my own way of doing things and I am always very professional. I can’t praise myself; fans can only encourage us while God will crown it all.

Having worked with top A-list artistes in the industry; who do you find working with more comfortably?

You want to cause trouble here, I love working with virtually all of them because they are cool headed and fun to be with.

Among them all, who is the most thorough?

This is very serious but with all due respect, I will say Faze. He loves his jobs done in an orderly manner because by the time you are done with his job and he listens to it, there is always one correction or the other to make. But in all, he is a very amiable and nice brother in the industry. Another person is Olu Maintain.

How long did it take you to develop sound engineering skills?

It was a gradual process. I started with a small radio and computer while I was working in a computer business centre. Few clients would come around there, I would do their jobs and I got paid. The money was just coming in bits, so I could not afford a big studio then. But I can tell you that from that small business centre, I made several hit songs for some of the established entertainers now.

Funny enough, I did not study anything related to sound engineering but the fact that I developed interest in music at the age of five helped a lot. I was a chorister in church and I would take the lead most of the time during church service.
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How would you describe your childhood?

My growing up was very rough but I had no choice than to just stand tall. It was not easy at all and that is the reason I help people on the street, most especially those that have talents. Getting to where I am today is just by the grace of God because some memories cannot be forgotten so soon. I would not want to delve into past experiences. It is best to keep being positive.

How did your parents react when you informed them of the kind of job you wanted to venture into?

My father died about 22 years ago and while growing up, I didn’t live with my mother but my eldest brother. My brother was in total support of my career and he paid for most of my studio fees while I was still doing music.